Mama says Om's theme this week is invisible. It is an ironic coincidence that just last night I was talking to Jon as he sat next to me on the bed about how grief has no marker anymore. The goth culture and the business suits have taken the color black. Veils are outdated. So people don't really have a way anymore to tell someone they are mourning a loss.
If you are like me and you miscarry there is no way to casually tell someone without having to tell them the entire story. You might laugh at a joke or smile at something but on the inside you're still dealing with a loss and a fear for the future that would be so much easier to deal with if you could wear it like a big scarlet letter.
Suddenly we are desensitized not only by what we watch and listen to but also how we mourn. It is no longer acceptable to spend weeks dressed in black. Your neighbors aren't going to stop by with a prayer and a casserole and your going to get up the next day and go to work.
We have become an invisible emotion nation. Too busy to stop and greive. Too busy to stop and care. Too busy to even slow down enough to keep from running ourselves over in the rush towareds nothing. The rush towards being even more invisible then the thin pink line that is no longer there.
2 comments:
So sorry to hear about your loss...the invisibility of grief is such a unique take on the MSO theme. I found your story very moving...thanks for sharing it.
Sometimes when we are screaming on the inside we can feel so invisible on the outside. Maybe people wore black in mourning, not to call attention to their grief, but to blend in with the shadows?
I say let the goth kids and suits have their quiet black and have yourself a good primal scream.
I do them in the car sometimes. No one can hear them, and they feel really really good. :)
Peace.
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